This is my issue with it. Why did it take being publicly called out to address it? I really wanted to see her handle it better, but honestly it's hard to believe she even remembered she'd done any of it.

And you know what, I'd have accepted that answer. I'd have accepted, I was a shitty person, and like so many shitty people, I forgot I was a shitty person until I was reminded of it. Now I'm horrified, and I need to figure out how to make amends, knowing I can never undo that past damage.

Because, as you say, it doesn't ring true that she thought of it every day, but never bothered to mention it, especially in light of her own issues with being bullied. You'd kinda think that might've been a wake up moment, an "oops, there's that goes around, comes around thing" moment.

That it wasn't, or that she chose to not acknowledge it publicly if it was, says nothing great. And it makes me sad, because I did admire her openness and honesty about what they went through with the painful miscarriage and her infertility struggles (especially as someone infertile, who never was able to conceive). And she DID do some good things in that regard.

But it definitely doesn't make up for this past shit.